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Dear readers I will be posting this article in the next few days, stay tuned it’s going to be GREAT!

Yes…the title says it all. I do mean women are evil. I hate to be a “traitor” to my own gender but c’mon I am certain if women would fess up, the greatest majority would agree how evil …other women are at least. I hate women. Oh not every single one of them but generally speaking I hate women. I have a best friend (female) I adore. I love my mother dearly. Of course I love my daughter. And there are a few dozen or so other females in my family and by some acquisition, who I feel compelled to love for one reason or another. Other than this …no. I prefer male friends, and I do mean friends. I have a boyfriend, but not out of necessity…unlike most of my female counter parts who feel invalid and void if they are not either married or have that “significant other”, attached to their name or maybe to jog some of those women’s memories for lack of a worse term…their “better half”.

Yeah I remember when I thought the men in my life were my, “better half”. After all we’re brainwashed from birth to believe men are better, stronger, smarter etc, etc. Oh does that sound arbitrary, conflicting maybe…let me clarify…they are. Men I mean. Men are better, stronger and hell yeah…smarter. They have to be because all the sweet, dependable, trustworthy, selfless, good hearted women having their babies, working two jobs and raising babies and taking care of their man are either partially insane, dumb or both. Which gets me to the evil part. I ‘m not totally unfair to my gender. I recognize. I know how easily it is to be a ass kisser aka. people pleaser. I used to be one. I wanted to be perfect. To be perfect though you must know the rules. The rules written, memorized, saved to memory, and burned by none other than a man. The rules only men seem to know and women follow right along. There I wrote it. In case you haven’t figured it out yet…what I mean. Women are evil, and men make us that way.

For the young and naive women and for just the good ole “people pleasers”…ass kissers, here’s some advice. You will never make a man or anyone else happy. Oh I know the phrases “I love you so much”, are so soothing to you tired over worked, over stressed under appreciated bodies but please. Get a clue. Your husbands/boyfriends are almost required to say that…this is one of the rules I mentioned earlier. But I said “almost required”, so sometimes they actually mean it. again I have a lot of male friends and inside information is awesome.

Now back to making your man/kids/mom/dad/boss/neighbor/baker/butcher/kids teacher all the way to the distant relative you have never met happy. It cannot be done. Not even if you were cloned ten fold. You see ladies the only person who can make anyone happy is them themselves. Once you make the decision to be happy in your own right others will feel that energy and not only will you feel better you may stop being described as what sounds like a used vehicle pitch to a potential buyer. I for one have reached the age…actually eight years ago that I don’t care to be referred to as dependable, trustworthy, will do anything in the world for you kind of gal.

Now some of you would never admit the resentment of sitting at your in-laws or future in-laws every holiday, birthday. And those out of the blue days he sends you there alone…that bye the way usually is code, for your husband/boyfriend is cheating on you…with your best friend, neighbor or whom ever. The constant fear of not being, “perfect”. The times when you just want to say NO! But you can’t. You love your man. You want more kids, and he’s agreed to have them…when you can afford it. So what do you do…you go and get another job. So you can save up. LOL. I’m sorry but you weak minded pathetic females make me sick. I look back to when I did have three young children, two jobs, and attended college full time. I hate that me. Oh I didn’t skip a beat. Everyone I knew thought I was so dependable, trustworthy, the energizer bunny (no I wasn’t on drugs) I had something better. Negative motivation. From my boyfriend who I had to prove everything to because I was …in love. I had several female “friends”, who attended college with me who thought the same way. Some are still enslaved by those very thoughts. The one’s who aren’t are much happier and live good lives. I know I am and I do. I know without a doubt that one syllable, two letter word (no) has given me more liberation and self respect than congress has a chance of doing.

Ah but the payback. Yes I know so many women who brag about the stuff they do to pay their husbands/boyfriends back for those indiscretions and some senseless bitches who just accept gifts in the form of diamond rings…when they catch their husband doing the preachers daughter…yeah I actually have a cousin who till this day is that caliber of a woman. I wont elaborate on that though it’s saved in draft for another story. However all this does in the end is make you a bitch. Do I think of myself as a bitch…yes, but to other women. I mam actually what you spineless yes girls would like to be. I think for myself. My boyfriend is a former military special ops man and he respects me, my thoughts and opinions as do I his. So I don’t have to be a bitch to men, I make it easy on myself by only having respectable, non-violent, drug free, non-alcholic men in my life.
Till next time ladies…work on that BACKBONE! You wont regret it. God Bless. Tammy White

I don’t think I need to define that word. Especially for all you catty bitches who keep on and on with all the lies and name calling redundant BS that is so tired on every thread on Marianna Topix. My goodness can ya’ll four whores not come up with anything new? Please…now do any of you illiterate, druggie, abortion having, jealous, sluts really think I care if you call me a lesbian? NOT! Hey the first amendment applies to ya’ll also. In fact double that remark and apply it to yourselves.

Wesley…it’s almost required that your meth infested tongue get on every thread and espouse your same tired rambling stories of how you are clean and sober, how you love your kids, how you know how to cook dope, how you are sooo concerned for the welfare of (not only your two GROWN kids) but feel this “maternal”, need to be concerned for mine? Well BITCH this is my site, my power, I do get to decide what does and does not go on my blog. If you think my kids are stupid enough to buy into your lies (as you are sucking on the crack pipe) think again. They are not. I am more than certain that all of Lee county knows that just because it rolls off your tongue, that doesn’t make it so. So write away you crack pot…no pun intended.

Karen Grantham…you are one to talk about kids. Your mama raised your kids except for the ones you aborted til the day she drew her last breath. You Sullivan trash. Your maiden name alone defines dysfunctional. You have been both lesbian and swinger whore. So be my guest write away on me. I don’t give a damn. Do you think I thought I was going for the most popular person on the planet award when I started this. I am prepared for destructive criticism othewise I guess I may as well crawl up in a fetal position and suck my thumb. And as for lil Laurie looking after my GROWN children..what did you eat a bowl of stupid or something? If my memorie serves me I raised Laurie six years and don’t recollect you checking on her once. I love lil Laurie and she was and is a joy and a wonderful person so don’t try and misconstrue what you think you can comprehend…because I will reiterate…you are a stupid person..forever! Oh And I haven’t even begun I’m just waiting for yahoo’s engine to grab this site. You do what you think you need to do and I promise you, as in war I wil take no quarters!

Loyalty by definition means faithfulness or devotion to a person, a cause, obligations or duties. The condition of being closly tied to another by affection or faith. Everyday in everyone’s life somehow our loyalty is tested. Whether it is through our work, our families, our marriages, our friendships, and relationships or just ourselves.

I just recently began to really think about loyalty and the areas in life that it applies. Suprisingly most people are totally unaware of the times they are being disloyal because we live in such a “fast forward”, society that we never stop to think about the little things we take for granted and the things we fail to do, or the things we do do that constitutes disloyal acts. It’s much easier just sailing through each day and getting praise for jobs well done or feedback on how dependable we are. Or when we raise our flag faithfully everyday to show our loyalty to America. Or the things that just seem to be automatic. Supporting our troops, being faithful to our spouse or signifgant other, recycling, helping our neighbor in times of need, giving to charities and helping the homeless. Defending our loved ones, regadless. These are the types of things that always comes to mind when posed with what loyalty is all about. Yes these are the easy things to support or take a stand on. But…

What about the times you feel you are on the “horns of a dilemma”? It is is easy being a good girlfriend, wife, boyfriend, husband or just a friend when times are good. And of course we are loyal to America it is The Super Power and even other countries are loyal to her. What about the times when everthing is dark and gloomy and it just doesn’t seem to be a light or a tunnel for it to be at the end of. I know it doesn’t surprise anyone to learn the majority of people choose the path of least resistance. We all live in the same world geographically speaking but for the weak minded turn coats and traitors their world is abc123 easy street, where ever! Personally I believe tough times never last, tough people do. To me LOYALTY is when you stand beside someone through victory and defeat!!!

Last night I had the most delicious meal I’ve had in weeks. My boyfriend Robert made tacos and tostidos and I ate til I could eat no more. Now mind you Robert is no chef he does pretty good in the kitchen though. You see I got news about four o’clock yesterday evening my youngest son had been released from jail. He was arrested a few weeks ago for assault and fleeing and was under a $200,000 dollar bond…no he didn’t shoot or stab anyone in fact he was wrongfully accused of hitting a friend of his in the back of the head with a hammer. Long story short, the victim told the local “intelligence”, who the real culprit was and that person was arrested and is now serving 9 momths in re-hab…yes re-hab for assault with a deadly weapon.

My point is this. I am a mother of three grown children. Two boys J.R. 26, Cory 22 and a daughter Claudia 20. I raised my children as a single mom. I did live with a man for 9 years while they were much younger and for the most part those were the happiest time in our lives as a family. I guess because we all had routines and lived on a 40 acre farm that allowed my kids to be kids. I know my kids don’t understand some of the most unpopular decisions I’ve made during their rearing and they wont until they have their own kids. Especially my daughter. I think back to when I was growing up and my parents. I know there is a special reward waiting in heaven for my mother. Oh my dad too. It’s just that moms are so different. I am and always have been very close to my mom. When I hurt I know she hurts and when she hurts I know when she is trying not to show it as not to worry anyone especially my dad.

These last few weeks my mom knew I was in great pain worrying about Cory. I know the calls she made and spent what little money she had to help Cory have snacks and etc while in jail. Without a doubt had she had $20,000 to bail him out he would have been out only hours after he was put in there. My parents love me because I am a part of them and they love my children because they are a part of us all as a family.

As always though there is one moronic trouble maker who has to keep things stired up and is even dumb enough to admit it on Marianna Topix. That person in this situtation was and is Wesley Hughes the mother of my sons girlfriend of 6 years. To begin withI let my emotions get the best of me and reacted to her smear campaign in such a way I am ashamed of it. Not just for the ugly vile things I said back to her but for going against everything my mom and dad taught me, and that was to never lend power and credentials to to a person you are at odds with by stuping to their level.

I love all three of my children equally. I only wish and hope my daughter will someday know the difference in her and her brothers is only anatomical. I know how selfish even grown children can be. I learned a long time ago the importance of what not to be so selfish with and that is time. There is not one day that goes by that I don’t talk to my mom. I have talked to Claudia exactly twice this whole year. I want her to know it hurts my feelings. I want her to know the times I have to have blood tranfusions and I have called and texted telling her where and when and she has yet to respond. I want her to know the difference in her and J.R. is loyalty and hers does not lie with me. I want her to know the difference between her and Cory compassion. Nonetheless I love them all in that respect there is no difference. Dedicated to my Mother Diane White…I Love You Mom!

Why can’t we all just get along? The age old question that never has or never will happen. During my sophmore year in college there was an elderly gentleman who gave a speech at a symposium on how to get anything you want out of life just by asking for it the right way. This man was in his late seventies but very lucid and one of the most intellegent persons I have ever met. His speech was pretty lengthy but interesting enough that I held on to every word. I still think about him frequently and have practiced his advice for many years. Oh he had lots of advice on getting the right job and husband or wife and paying less than the sticker price for a new car. The list goes on and on.

The most outstanding part of his entire speech was a really true one liner and in that he said “people will drive you crazy; if you let them. That’s been nearly 12 years ago and it still rings true. Personally I love people. I am a people person. I like meeting new people, young, old, any race…I love people. And everybody has a story to tell. Some are boring some are weird and some are fascinating. But whatever the story is to me I know it’s important to them. People by nature have a need to be heard. I think it somehow validates their life. I make it a point to listen to everyone and give them feedback so they know they are being heard. Our society is so caught up in the outwardness of people that unless you are rich, beautiful live in the “right” neighbohood or have the “right” last name then you just don’t count. Not so! Everyone counts and everyone deserves to be treated with kindness and respect. Especially the aged, little children, the handicapped and the disabled.

Now for the people who will drive you crazy; if you let them…well they are heard too just in a very negative way. I have friends who have litterally cried and gotten so depressed by mean and ugly things people say. To them my advice is “get over it”, move on. We have no control over other peoples thoughts and opinions, but we have total control over our own. Eleanor Roosevelt said many times in her speachs durning the womens movement “no one can make you feel inferiour without your permission”.

Here is my Advice!

Hello America, my name is Tammy and this is still a work in progress so please be patient.  Everyone has surely heard of the neighborhood, motherhood, brotherhood or just the hood.  Well theventhood is designed to help those who really need to tell a story, complain, bragg or anything a person feels the need to talk to someone but for whatever reason they cannot.  

Well here you can , this is your chance to be heard.  Hey if you know a secret on someone, bust em out.  Hate your neighbor..dis em right on here.  Having a problem with a co-worker air their “dirty laundry” here and then send this link to their boss.  Simply click the forum link on the left side to make your post.  You do not have to use your name infact we encourage false names to “protect”, the guilty.

If you feel you have been wronged in any way by anyone heres the payback you wont need bail money for!